• Monique Renewed

10 Reasons Why You Should Wait Until Marriage to Have Sex

I know it’s hard

Society looks at you weird when you say you’re a virgin or waiting for the right one.

According to the Waiting Till Marriage organization, only 3 percent of Americans wait until marriage to have sex.


Is this biblical rule some outdated principle or is there a good reason why God wants you to wait until marriage before participating in something so common?

After all, most will say “It’s just sex!

Who else would know more about our bodies besides the one who created them?

Here are 10 reasons why it’s worth the wait.

The purpose of marriage.

1. Marriage joins and unites a man and woman to become one flesh. The idea behind it is to establish an intimate, committed, and long-lasting relationship (Gen 2:24).

2. Marriage represents how Christ and the church are one. Each spouse is supposed to demonstrate the same sacrificial and humble love that Christ provides to believers (Eph 5:31-33).

What Happens Spiritually

3. Once you become a believer, you are joined to Christ spiritually. Your body becomes a member of Christ’s body (1 Cor 6:15-17).

When you are sleeping around, however, you are also joining (to stick to like glue, to fasten together, to keep company) spiritually with the person you are sleeping with and becoming one with them.

Sex is not just physical, it affects you spiritually and it affects your walk with Christ.

4. You are sinning against your own body (1 Cor 6:18).

Most sins take place outside of your body. Sexual immorality on the other hand takes place within your body.

Furthermore, your body does not belong to you, it belongs to God. If you put your faith in Christ, the Holy Spirit dwells within you, therefore you are tainting the temple of the Holy Spirit when committing sexual immorality.

5. Sex outside the confines of marriage is sexual immorality thus a sin against God. (Did you know sinning against God gives Satan legal authority in your life?)

To avoid sexual immorality, Paul says for each man and woman to have their own spouse. He did not say multiple partners or have sex outside your spouse (1 Cor 7:2-3).

6. Sexual immorality distorts God's original intent. This includes incest, pedophilia, homosexuality, fornication, adultery, the list goes on.

Sexual immorality is translated as the Greek word porneia, which is you guessed it where we get our English word pornography from (1 Thess 4:3).

When instances like this happen in the Bible, you will see it being referred to as being defiled or impure.

Equally Important are the Consequences

7. Some people just want to sleep with you for the experience. No love, no commitment, no relationship, just a prostitutional-like transaction. This is not how God designed sex to be.

You can find many testimonies where someone had sex and the other partner became completely indifferent and went about their merry business like nothing happened.

8. Others have sex and they cannot get the other person out of their head. They are always thinking about the person, are emotionally attached, and can’t focus on life.

9. There are even some individuals that once they had one sexual experience, they dive deeper into more sexually explicit experiences and cannot seem to stop.

Before they know it, they are dealing with the effects of sex addiction and try to fill a void in their life.

10. Not to mention the risks of:

  • Unplanned pregnancies

  • STDs & AIDs- Some sexually transmitted diseases have no cure. Do you want to live with that burden for the rest of your life?

Do not give in to peer pressure. Just because your friends are doing it, doesn’t mean you have to.

You do not know what others have going on internally or spiritually because of their decisions.

Sex affects you physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Focus on your relationship with God. Contrary to what Trey Songs says, God invented sex. There are rules and boundaries for a reason.