Child-Images (For the Parents)
Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.
Being a parent is one of the most difficult tasks in the universe. I have one and it feels like I have 10. They provoke us to anger which makes us provoke them to anger. The Bible says we should be slow to anger.
James 1:19-21 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Human anger does not produce the righteousness God desires. Disciplining is also a part of being a parent.
So, the question is how do we discipline our children without the harshness and unrighteousness of anger? We discipline to teach a lesson not to harm. When God disciplines us, it is for our own good so that we may learn the errors of our ways and not commit those same actions again; not to see us perish, but rather to see us do better in the future.
If you ever been disciplined by God, it’s agonizing at first, but I bet you quickly learned right from wrong. Communication is still the key to any effective relationship. Are we actually talking to our children on their level?
They might not be able to understand things from our perspective so we have to break it down so they can understand from their perspective. Sometimes you might have to look at them from a different lens and remove your children from the actual issue that they are experiencing.
Are we listening to what they are actually trying to say in between the lines and not quickly dismissing them? What are the underlying issues and the root cause of the problem? When sneaking out to go to a party when they know they shouldn’t, is this really a cry for attention and them wanting to fit in? God hates sin not us.
Let's recap on what you should consider before disciplining your children.
1. Listen in between the lines to what your child is really trying to tell you.
2. Think before you speak.
3. Do not lash out on them.
4. Determine the underlying lesson are you trying to teach them and try explaining that to them.
5. Talk to your children in a way that they can understand. Jesus used parables.
6. Find the root of their problems.
7. Separate your child from the actual issue and deal with the issue itself.
8. Do not shun your children away.
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