• Monique Renewed

How to Overcome Insecurity and Gain Confidence as a Teen

Psalms 139: 13-14 NIV

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are

wonderful, I know that full well.

Hey sis,

This is something we’ve all probably struggled with as a teen.


And you know what I like to do first! Let’s get to the meaning and the root cause of the issue.

Insecurity is a lack of freedom to be who you truly are in Christ.

You don’t know much about yourself- your likes, dislikes, passions, strengths, or weaknesses.

This makes you an easy target to be shaped by other people’s opinions of you.

Take out a pen and journal and download my free e-book to begin this journey of loving yourself, loving God, and loving others.

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Knowing who you are in Christ is a gift because once you know your identity, you are free from the bondage that other people try to mold you in.

This is where true confidence and security come from.

Once I started to get to know God, He started to reveal things about me that I’ve never realized.

I realized that I hated myself.

I resented my weaknesses, ignored my strengths, had no boundaries, sought to please others, and never advocated for myself.

Is this also you?

Over time, God began to hold a mirror in front of me and revealed who I truly was in Him.

Yes, I was a flawed human being like everyone else, but I was also made in His image.

David is a prime example of someone who knew his identity in God and did not let circumstances or other people deter him.

I suggest studying his life to find examples of where his inner confidence remained bold in God.

There are three major components to gaining confidence and overcoming insecurity. This work takes time and practice but the results are lifelong and worth it.

1. Know What God Says About You

We spend so much time trying to achieve unrealistic expectations from outside

sources that we neglect what God says about us.

The most important step is getting to know who you are spiritually.

There are plenty of Bible verses that will tell you exactly who you are and what God thinks of you.

Meditate on these truths:

  • Galatians 3:26 You are a child of God

  • Ephesians 2:10 You are God's masterpiece

  • John 8:36 You are free in Christ

2. Get to Know Yourself.

Who are you? What do you love? What do you hate? What is your passion?

What are your strengths and gifts? Do not think you do not have any gifts because God inherently gave us all unique abilities to use.

What are your weaknesses?

How can you allow God to transform your weaknesses and mold you into the image of Christ?

Get to know the person God created you to be then be that person.

3. Use Your God-Given Tools

God gave us three physical tools to achieve the optimal version of ourselves health-wise.

Most people focus on the physical appearance to get over their insecurities but the truth is if you do not do the inner work first, you are still going to be that same insecure person but with a different look.

Most things that we worry about physically can be improved with exercise, healthy food, and rest.

  • If you are insecure about your body and want to lose some weight then exercise.

  • If you are insecure about excessive acne, then stop eating junk food that causes inflammation, drink more water, and get a skincare regimen that works.

  • If you’re always moody, drained, and stressed then get some rest.

Overcoming insecurity starts with being secure spiritually, getting to know yourself, then working on the physical aspects.

There is no other order.

We are first spiritual beings with a soul and a physical body.

We have to start from the inside first and then work our way out.

Do not forget to download the e-book that goes more in-depth on this topic. It contains tons of tips, journal prompts, scripture, recipe ideas, and prayer.